In the world of coaching, progress and improvement can seem a long way away.
It’s puts people off and dissuades them from even trying.
Small changes seem pointless and not worth bothering with. They want big changes in the shortest time possible.
This can happen but if...
Be kind but be fierce is a quote by Winston Churchill and is one of my favourites.
After over 30 years of personal development coaching It is these qualities I aim at for my clients.
Be kind but be fierce.
Most of them want to integrate these two seemingly opposing qualities into their lives.
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Recently I posted a video on how toxic masculinity doesn’t exist and that it’s the absence of masculinity that’s toxic. It’s always interesting to see the backlash of such suggestions and how it triggers people to react in a barrage of abuse and hate.
Whenever I see this,...
There is a saying in performance psychology that I myself use that states “Be motivated by what you want to achieve and not by what could go wrong.”
Good advice but the reality is, we can only be motivated by focusing on what we want to achieve by a deep understanding of what...
I’ve come to realise courage has no middle ground.
You are either cultivating courage or moving towards the opposite.
We have to clearly aim at it.
It’s not easy, which is why it’s becoming so rare.
Courage is integrated into the character of the...
We’ve come a long way since the days of sitting in a chair and simply talking about our problems. Dialogue therapy has been identified more now, as not just incomplete but only as a single piece of the puzzle.
Preparing the body as a way of changing our thoughts, emotions and...
This interview with my previous Instructor Brian Jacks, took place about 8 years ago when Brian was 69 years old. It is an insight into the mindset of a champion, a Judo master, a phenomenal example of immense determination and dedication.
When I hear the saying “They don’t...
My amazing Judo teacher, Olympic medalist and six time European Champion Brain Jacks, always said if you don’t believe you can do something you have already failed, even if you are taking action.
I used to look around me when doing martial arts and see the uncertainty, fear and lack of...
The remarkable men I have been mentored by, led me to a truth that was demonstrated by how they lived life.
I noticed these men didn’t expect to be looked after or blame others for the hardships in their life. I’m not sure they even recognised hardships in their terminology.
The big...
I’ve always been quite open about how I received a masterclass as a child in how the three weak men in my family created hard times for everyone else.
This is undoubtedly why I chose to approach courage & resilience as a lifestyle and overall development of character and not as the...
Most of us believe we are one personality. One self to change and hopefully improve upon according to the goals we set ourselves.
in the book ‘In Search Of The Miraculous’ teacher George Gurdjieff, suggests each of us has over a hundred different personalities all...
